Boyfriend is a freak
Basically he likes being tied up, teased, and denied sex until he begs profusely for it.
He had a bad experience with an ex that put him off anything having to do with s&m for a while, even the ‘innocent’ stuff. He’s gotten to the point that he trusts me enough now to share it with me, and let me restrain and blindfold him, and he finally realized(or admitted?) that he absolutely LOVES it. We’ve tried it once so far and he’s been requesting it ever since, coming up with new ideas and things he wants me to do.
I don’t mind doing it. In fact I’m fairly good at it because I’ve been in dominant/submissive relationships before and I know how to handle it, so he’s in good hands. I’m also really glad he trusts me enough to share it with me.
I’m more submissive than dominant, but I don’t mind being dominant. I still get wet and I still enjoy it. It’s nice to be in control every once in a while; but for some reason, I’m really put off by him wanting to be submissive – to the point that I just don’t want to do it. This has never happened with anyone I’ve been dominant with before.
It’s not like he’s requesting Cleveland steamers or anything. Compared to what I’ve seen and experienced, what he wants is pretty tame. I would like to do it for him and make him feel happy and wanted,but the mere mention of it bothers me to the point that I don’t want to do it.
I do plan to talk to him about it, but I have no idea what to say or how to approach it without making him feel embarrassed, unwanted, or bad about what he likes and wants.